2016 ‘F’ words Resolution

Our family has been conversing about New Year’s resolutions for 2016 and have discovered that there are Three things our family will focus on:

  1. Faith: We want to become a family unit who overcomes obstacles by tackling them in faith instead of tiptoeing around them in fear. Our thoughts are the beginning of a healthy and fruitful life. When we fix our minds on good things, we produce good fruit. This is a truth I still need to be reminded of daily and it’s one I want my kids to understand even now. This new year, we’ll be walking together through Philippians 4:8 and studying the words Paul used to explain a thought life that ultimately leads to peace. Where does your family stand in Faith?
  2. Family: The best thing in life are the people we love, the places we’ve been, and the memories we’ve made along the way. We will be utilizing a “Look, Sound, and Feel” type system for our family in this new year! How does your family love one another?
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  4. Finances: This year we will be focusing on a budget; we will also focus on micro managing our finances with four easy steps:

    1. Have a clear, specific goal.

    Very simply, find out exactly how much you need to save.

    If you haven’t been actively working toward your goal, then you might not know. I certainly didn’t before we started our get-out-of-debt plan.

    Sometimes it’s just easier to ignore the state of our finances, but unfortunately, that won’t make it go away. (Believe me, I tried!)

    Just seeing it on paper (well on the computer screen) in cold black-and-white can’t-ignore-it-text did a lot to show us how crucial it was to change our financial situation fast.

    What Goal Should I Set?

    Everyone is in a little bit of a different situation, so of course, only you will know exactly what goal you need to set to bring you closer to family financial freedom.

    A good rule of thumb is to follow Dave Ramsey’s 7 baby steps. Set your goal for the single step that you’re on right now. Don’t try to think about all 7 at once!

    2. Set a Date

    Set a realistic date for completing your goal.

    This means if you’re trying to get out of debt, find out how much you owe, and how long it’s going to take if you keep making that minimum payment.

    It’s good to be realistic, but it’s also just as good to think big. You’d be amazed at how much you can save when you really set your mind to it.

    3. Remember Why

    Also, write down why you want to accomplish this goal.

    Every time it’s feeling hard, you can remind yourself why it’s worth it, and that it’s only for a finite period of time.

    4. Steps to Success

    Break your goal down into bite-sized chunks, so you can see progress. It’s these quick little successes that will keep you marching right on toward your bigger goal.

    Checking off  that first mini-goal can be extremely motivating to keep going and to get it done even faster.

     

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    Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” – Hebrew 13:5

    No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money. – Matthew 6:24

    The rich rules over the poor, and the borrower is the slave of the lender. – Proverbs 22:7

    The wicked borrows but does not pay back, but the righteous is generous and gives. – Psalms 37:21

    Come to terms quickly with your accuser while you are going with him to court, lest your accuser hand you over to the judge, and the judge to the guard, and you be put in prison. Truly, I say to you, you will never get out until you have paid the last penny. – Matthew 5:25-26

    Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law. – Romans 13:8

    For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it? Otherwise, when he has laid a foundation and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, saying, “This man began to build and was not able to finish.” – Luke 14:28:30

    On the first day of every week, each of you is to put something aside and store it up, as he may prosper, so that there will be no collecting when I come. – 1 Corinthians 16:2

    Wealth gained hastily will dwindle, but whoever gathers little by little will increase it. – Proverbs 13:11

    Whoever works his land will have plenty of bread, but he who follows worthless pursuits will have plenty of poverty. A faithful man will abound with blessings, but whoever hastens to be rich will not go unpunished. – Proverbs 28:19-20

    In his grace, God has given us different gifts for doing certain things well. – Romans 12:6

     

 

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Year 2015 Interview

For the past three years, I’ve been interviewing each one of my children so that we can look back and see just how their choices impacted their lives. Below are the three interviews I have conducted and their pictures! Enjoy!

Year 2015 Interview with Kaylee 

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  1. I am this old: Six 
  2. My favorite show: Spongebob Squarepants
  3. My favorite thing about school: Being in first grade
  4. My favorite color is: Purple, blue, and dark pink
  5. My favorite movie: Inside Out
  6. What do you want to be when you grow up: Veterinarian
  7. What do you love to do with Mom: Cuddle
  8. What do you love to do with Dad: Laugh
  9. My favorite Sport: Cheerleading
  10. My best friend: Emma Jean, Maddison, Carter, and Logan
  11. My favorite Holiday: Christmas
  12. My favorite Animal: Kitten
  13. My favorite Season: Winter
  14. I like to take these to bed at night:  Wear minion pajamas, Unicorny, Sealer, and Quaily
  15. My favorite food: Fruit Loops

Year 2015 Interview with Chelsea

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  1. I am this old: Five
  2. My favorite show: My Little Pony
  3. My favorite thing about school: Coloring in Kindergarten
  4. My favorite color is: All the colors of the rainbow
  5. My favorite movie: Deer Hunting Movies with Daddy
  6. What do you want to be when you grow up: An Agriculture Teacher
  7. What do you love to do with Mom: Give hugs and kisses
  8. What do you love to do with Dad: Hunt
  9. My favorite Sport: Soccer
  10. My best friend: Jessica, Chloe, Kaleigh, Kallie Anne, Mikey, and Myself
  11. My favorite Holiday: Thanksgiving
  12. My favorite Animal: Chickens, Cats, and Puppies
  13. My favorite Season: Summer
  14. I like to take these to bed at night:  My blankey and lady buggy
  15. My favorite food: French fries, chicken nuggets, corn, and mac and cheese. 

Year 2015 Interview with Walker

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  1. I am this old: Three
  2. My favorite show: Thomas
  3. My favorite thing about school: I’m not in school
  4. My favorite color is: Blue
  5. My favorite movie: Thomas
  6. What do you want to be when you grow up: Thomas
  7. What do you love to do with Mom: Protect Mommy
  8. What do you love to do with Dad: Ride a Train 
  9. My favorite Sport: Football
  10. My best friend: PJ (I don’t know who PJ is-Haha)
  11. My favorite Holiday: Christmas
  12. My favorite Animal: Giraffe
  13. My favorite Season: Winter
  14. I like to take these to bed at night:  Thomas
  15. My favorite food: French fries with no ketchup

Beginner’s Guide: Attention Deficit Disorder

Being a mom of multiples can really be overwhelming at times-sike, just kidding, it’s overwhelming all the time! They each have different needs and wants and you can’t cater to them all at the same time because their needs are different; that’s three different needs for our family. 

With that said, concerns don’t usually arise until kids are in a routine environment, more so in a school setting, specifically in first and second grades. 

First, let me give you some background information on our daughter, Kaylee.

Kaylee is our oldest; she is the sweetest, kindest, Christ fearing, and smartest little girl you will ever meet. 

This year we noticed that Kaylee was having difficulty focusing on the little things. We had issues when giving her directions, asking her to do small tasks, and we became increasingly frustrated.

What was the issue?

A.D.D=Attention Deficit Disorder

As parents, you always want to sweep things under the rug, because honestly, your child is perfect and there are no imperfections. Right, No, Wrong!

We took action immediately and discussed things with her teacher, who provided us with daily summaries. Kaylee was being self distracted and having difficulties finishing her work. When we received her first report card, Kaylee had two ‘N’s in the focus/attention department. About that time, we had one of our children stay with my mom for two weeks to get ready for Christmas and other things. Once we dropped our son off we started redirecting our attention on to Kaylee. We worked really hard on redirecting and reinforcing positive behaviors for the next two weeks and keeping close communication with her teacher. 

Instead of getting the official diagnosis from the doctor and putting her on medication, which is totally fine in some instances, we decided that our parenting style and skills needed refreshing and we have found that these things for us have been extremely successful.

Our New Parenting Style:

  1. Be Direct. When you ask your child something, make sure it’s clear and in a way that they understand.
  2. Eye Contact. When you’re talking to your child, make sure you’re looking at them until you’re done talking..with three kids it can be difficult to side track and focus your attention on other things while your child is talking their heart out to you.
  3. Reinforce. Reinforcement is important. Before school we would let Kaylee know that if she completed her work that she could have 30 extra minutes to sit up with mom and dad after her younger siblings went to bed. Another example is reading an extra book at night, an extra dessert, or simply extra iPad time. Monetary things don’t always have to come into play, but if it works, do so. For example: we use the app: iRewardChart, which gives stars for their behaviors/chores, etc. If they get so many starts at the end of the week, then they get sweet frog, but only reinforcing that a certain amount of stars is reached.
  4. Love. You may think that this one is easy, but with multiple children you assume you’ve given all your kids hugs and kisses and told them “I love you” make sure that as their parent you are giving them that Love connection frequently so they know how much they are loved, hourly, even. 

Kaylee has not needed medication and since we have redirected our parenting skills to our new style, Kaylee has been consistent with her behaviors, turning in her work, and staying focused. 

I hope this post helps you, the reader, and just to understand that for things like this it’s ok! 

 For now we will practice better parenting skills to make sure all of our children are taken care of for the rest of their lives!

Advice about Marriage

My advice about marriage is to STOP COMPARING your spouse to other spouses.
We have been married for almost ten years now and boy did it go by fast! One of the struggles I’ve dealt with is comparison in our marriage and boy was it a struggle.

We had many arguments that were escalated because my husband couldn’t change a tire, fix the plumbing, clean up after himself, and so forth, like other husbands I thought could. I was always looking on to other marriages and thinking of how my husband could be different if he took the initiative and learned how to do something for a change. Looking back, it really wasn’t his fault, his dad’s fault, or anyone else’s fault..he really just was never taught and I married him for his love, not for his ability on whether or not he was able to do something or not. 

Recently, I showed my husband the power of YouTube. They have many step by step tutorials that allow you to fix something and we had a plumbing issue..he was able to watch the video and instantly fix it. I was so proud of my husband and acknowledged his accomplishments. 

He has been a bit more pro-active in fixing things around the house and I have been more lenient in the comparison department, actually, I haven’t been comparing, since realizing that all I need from him are his efforts and attempts to try and learn. 

Comparing my husband to another and arguing with him over something silly was just eating up time away that I could have been praising him or loving him. 

I tend to keep this quote close to my heart whenever an issues arises in the home and it needs to be fixed:  Enjoy the time with the person you fell in love with and not the person you want them to be:)

Merry Christmas 🎄

“…Born on this day, a Savior, which is Christ the Lord.”

  
With happiness and blessings, from our family to yours, we hope you had a very Merry Christmas!

This year, Christmas was a bit difficult for our family. Our middle child, Chelsea, left for the Bahama’s on a Disney Cruise. With little communication back and forth, we assume she is having the best time ever! We were able to FaceTime with her yesterday for a bit while they were at port. Picture below: 

 She let us know she was having the time of her life! (Thank Goodness for technology)

My husband had difficulty with her being gone for Christmas, which is completely normal to feel. He has the biggest heart and has become a father I never dreamed of to our children. He is anticipating her return and giving her all the presents that she left behind from her family.

Speaking of Chelsea, our little country girl, my aunt posted this picture: 

 Any idea of why the face?

Here’s the thing..we raise our kids to “live” off the land as much as possible, which means, we feed them deer meat-hamburger and roast. We are a hunting family, so it only comes natural. My aunt and cousins are anti-hunters and want nothing to do with deer meat of any sorts. When Shannon, pictured sitting next to Chelsea, started cutting into her prime rib, Chelsea asked her if her deer meat was good!! Hahaha!!!😂😂😂 Such a great representation of our family, values, and way of life. 

Christmas came and went just like any other day. Our two other children woke up, opened their presents, and we ate homemade Sausage gravy and biscuits-a tradition in our family, since The Chattin’s cut sausage straight from the hog. 

 
The kids were pleased with all their things, which the greatest present a parent can ever receive is the morning on Christmas watching your kids open their gifts and seeing the excitement. 

    
   
Chris and I also enjoyed our presents..hubby and the kids got me a Cinderella pandora charm and texting gloves 😉 So sweet and thoughtful…now if I can just find my bracelet. 😳

Speaking of gloves, how about this weather 👎🏻 A big thumbs down in my book! Not only was the weather crippling, it added to it not feeling like Christmas. I wore a  t-shirt to my in laws house today! 

I’m so blessed with awesome in laws, siblings, and nephews. 

 This is my sister in law and her beautiful family! We had such a blast visiting and fellowshipping with each other. She has the sweetest boys ever! So thankful for them! 

Lastly, my husband is such a sport! He has no problem playing along with whatever I ask- for example:

  Merry Christmas from us to you all! Enjoy;)

The miscarriage that didn’t happen, Our Christmas Miracle

When a couple becomes pregnant, it is suppose to be the happiest time of your life, or is it?

Six years ago, we were expecting our second child, or so we thought. We were excited and immediately called the doctor and made an appointment.

The appoint was set for one week before Christmas where we discovered that there was no baby present, I was in fact having pregnancy symptoms, and we would soon learn that our miracle baby would miscarry.

I knew my doctor well and begged and pleaded with him to have one more ultrasound, and after several minutes of back and forth between insurance and a doctors order, he agreed. I went to make an appointment and six years ago today, just three short days before Christmas, we went in for our ultrasound, while the anxiety and the walk felt like walking through the eternal flames of hell walking from the waiting room to the ultrasound room, on the screen popped a little Christmas miracle that we were forever grateful for the life we would be giving. This time each year we look at Chelsea and are reminded that life is precious and for what ever reason, Our Lord wanted us to have this angel, who blessed our family in more ways than one.

 Chelsea, 5, will always be called our Christmas miracle.
Thank you, Lord, for your mercies and the beautiful life that was given to us!

Birthdays, Family, and Love

Walker turned three Friday and we celebrated by having a small birthday celebration for him. He has been addicted to trains, mainly Thomas and friends & his daddy’s job, so we had a small train themed party for him. It’s sad my baby is growing up!

Speaking of, which, growing up, Walker is just about potty trained!!! A huge thanks to my mom who certainly is the reason why Walker is 80% trained. What a huge relief that was for our family. When you have multiples, it gets exhausting and you feel like giving up. It’s kind of like my job as a behavior counselor-when the client’s behaviors aren’t changing, you need an intervention from another counselor because you’ve become the reason why things aren’t changing, in our case, potty training. Sending him to my mothers house for about two weeks just made perfect sense-she was the intervention he needed to have someone else step in and say, okay, I’ll try it and if he’s not ready then you’ll have to give him more time. Now he is just about potty trained and we continue to reinforce those positive potty behaviors.

Thanks Mom!

Speaking of family, we have a new family member (Picture below) Rudolph Chattin. He is a beagle mountain fiest. Now, in the past, we have had dogs that we had to return or give away because it wasn’t the perfect fit or God was letting us know it wasn’t the right time for our family to have a dog(You feel guilty, but it has to be God’s time, not your time). Anyway, since we aren’t able to have anymore kids due to my cardiomyopathy, and Walker becoming independent, we figured it was a great time to start shopping. We wanted something small and easily managed so the kids could take care of the majority of the responsibility. The girls cheerleading coach told us that their beagle and mountain fiest were having puppies and that we could have one! We were thrilled and it just felt right! The girls and I picked him up and Chelsea named him Rudolph(Chris, begs to differ by calling him Rudy, but we will manage). We have been so proud of the girls-taking care of their chickens, cats, and now dog water and food twice a day. Our kiddos never cease to amaze me! 

We met my aunt in West Virginia yesterday to hand Chelsea over to her, who is taking her on a Disney cruise to the Bahamas for Christmas. Currently, she is spending the night with her great grandma, so that is very special. My nana was also surprised since she didn’t know Chelsea was going! She’s going to have a blast! That girl will make memories that will last a lifetime!

Kaylee will be meeting with her girlfriends this week as she prepares to say goodbye to one of her good friends, Makayla. She and her family are moving to Germany! We hope to make her time with us extra special before she leaves.

A huge thanks to Nathan Switzer, who helped design my new logo for my blog! Picture below! 

The girls had an amazing time making ornaments and using only two ingredients: Applesauce and cinnamon! It was a wonderful idea and made great presents for their teachers at school.

    
    
    
 

That’s it for now!