Chaos & Love

It’s quarter to seven in the morning and I’m halfway falling off the bed from a little boy who needed mama and a baby girl who also needed mama. Regardless of the time, I needed to journal.

Oh, if you’re wondering where my husband and other child are- they are sleeping on the couch. Not because we are fighting or mad at each other, but because he had a really nice sleep and our little girl wanted to sleep next to him. 💜

The chaos can be fun and other times it can be disastrous. We have to choose how to respond to it..

1. Do we want to Love through the Chaos, or

2. Be Bitter through the Chaos

It’s hunting season and while raising three kids is hard all by itself, life goes on and doesn’t stop for anyone.

I find myself getting bitter at the beginning of hunting season because I instantly become a single mom/widow/whatever you want to call it, but, regardless, I’m the one trying to resolve and argue with my kids who will be cleaning up the cow poop they stepped in and brought it into the house.

I find priorities being pushed back further and further.

Somehow, my husband can come home at 7:30-8pm and be exhausted from working all day on the family farm, but I’m still left to keep the house running.

Dishes can be piled up and not get clean and like our dishwasher currently that is not cleaning the dishes and leaving residue-I’m the one who is responsible for getting them done.

I’m not bitter, I just want to be better.

Ok, let’s put all that aside and look at the positives:

  • My husband is not having glamorous love affairs on 9th street
  • My husband isn’t selling or using drugs
  • My husband surely isn’t running a small town sweat shop

NO!

He is…

  • Working hard
  • Helping his family
  • Hunting to provide the steady flow of meat our family needs to survive
  • Teaching our children life lessons that will never be taught anywhere else

The Chaos immediately turns into Love when I see my husband setting a good Godly example for our family. The Love he shares through hunting, processing, and other things they do on the farm will be passed on to our children.

The Chaos comes to a halt when he fits in hunting time together for just the two of us🦌

For now, I’m going to continue to pray that God continues to keep us together through all this chaos..I’m going to pray that God continues to show his love through my husband and our children learning life lessons that can only be taught through our Lord.

Do you find yourself and your life being Chaotic?

Share with how you handle it..I’d love to hear from you💜

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Afraid of the ADHD Monster

As I woke up this morning to do my mom devotional, during the peace and quiet I endure by waking up very early, so that I can think and have God time to start my day, I was a bit overwhelmed with excitement because my devotional for today answered what I’ve been fearing for a while.

 

Here is the devotional I read:

“As children we were fearful of monsters under the bed, or we were frightened by the thought of what could be lurking in the dark corners of the room. As irrational as those fears were, they were real to us. We froze; dared not to breathe or cry out, shut our eyes tightly bidding sleep to come. The nights and the darkness they brought seemed endless.

 

As adults we still fear monsters; however, these days they take form of an irate boss, difficulty with a relationship, an unfavorable medical diagnosis, or a credit card bill. Fear grips us in a real and powerful way, immobilizing us. If we aren’t careful, fear can destroy our peace of mind.

 

I sought the Lord, and he answered me and delivered me from all my fears. Those who look to him are radiant, and their faces shall never be ashamed. (Psalm 34:4-5)

 

What are the monsters that you fear? As a child of God, you can cry out to him, confident that he will help. You can shake fear and know that whatever monster you face, you don’t face it alone.”

 

What have I been fearful of and battling for a while now, you may ask? ADHD.

 

It’s something I have and have struggled with my whole life and while it wasn’t something that was popular while I was growing up, I’m so glad it’s something that is recognized these days.

 

Before I became a mom, I was one who always said my kids would never be medicated; I was so judgmental over mothers about EVERY SINGLE CHOICE moms made.

 

When Kaylee started first grade, we noticed behaviors that were out of the norm for her and it became difficult in school and at home to redirect her behaviors and attention multiple times. We decided to have Kaylee tested for ADHD.

 

In December 2015, Kaylee was officially diagnosed with ADHD and our world was turned upside down. (It’s funny looking back now how things just happen naturally, or how God puts things in our specific lives to help us understand how precious life can be as parents)

 

We discussed with Kaylee’s AMAZING doctor all of the options and since I was so against giving children a controlled substance, we decided not to give Kaylee medication and work hard on her behaviors with partnerships with her amazing teacher, who is also my best friend.

 

Our family worked extremely hard over the school year to promote redirection, focusing, paying attention, doing great work (Which, both of our kiddos are extremely smart) and staying on task.

 

Our hard work paid off by the end of the year because Kaylee became more focused in her studies and she continued to excel in her academics.

 

Something seemed to still not be so quite right and had us, as her parents, asking questions.

 

After many thoughts and prayers, this week we decided to give medication a chance. With the start of summer, it becomes a great opportunity to try medication out for Kaylee that will help her focus on one thing rather than many things at once.

 

Today is the day we are going to start her medication and our fears are drawing to a close. Is this going to work? Is this the right medication? What if it doesn’t work? Will this paralyze her? (These and many more questions are all thoughts we’ve had)

 

Please keep our family in your thoughts and prayers this summer as we embark on a new adventure together, figuring out if Kaylee is on the right medication for her ADHD, and that it helps her maintain her focus for future goals and academics and home life.

 

My devotion this morning spoke to me letting me know that God is with us through this new adventure and will always comfort us during these times. I was thankful to have this devotional time and appreciate all new adventures that come our way.

 

Lastly, I apologize to all moms I judged while I was a non-mom. As I’m learning, it truly is one of the worst things to do, while embarking on your life journey.

This is the face of my “ADHD Monster” receiving her Principal’s Award for academics and being an overall student in her class ❤

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Kindergarten, Farm field trip, and Happiness

When I woke up this morning, it was cold and rainy. Of course it was raining, we have an outdoor field trip today. Instead of thinking, “Oh, I don’t think I’m going to go today because I don’t want to get wet, walk through wet grass, and look like something that was dragged out of the sewer” I got dressed in my favorite water shoes, put my favorite purple shirt on and told myself I was going to embrace the day, whatever was thrown at me; no umbrella included. Loaded up the minivan and off to school we went- with big smiles on our faces:)

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The kiddos were so ready for their field trip, but not before a couple of errands that needed to be completed for the teacher, which I was excited to help out.

Chelsea was star today which made it even more special. Each kid was given a piece of paper that had “Chelsea is_______” and the kids had to draw a picture and fill in the words. Some of these kids were pretty creative. Below are some of the examples they had written for her in her book. So sweet ❤

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We arrived at the farm for our field trip and to our surprise, while other schools canceled, we were 1 of 3 classes that were there today and guess what-NO RAIN! How exciting! Life is so much better when you’re embracing and chasing it.

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We had a great time swinging on the tire swings, riding in the cows that were pulled by a tractor, playing in corn, and riding on a hay ride! Kindergarten is so much fun! A farm is even better! I decided to take the bus to embrace the full scope of a field trip and it’s so much fun with the kiddos! Brings back a ton of memories.

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These kiddos pressured me into going down the huge slide today and like an even bigger kid- I stepped up to the challenge and went down the slide, but not before taking this selfie with them 🙂

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Another mama stepped up to the challenge and slide down the slide 🙂 This is our girl scout leader-she is wonderful 🙂 A great leader she is and fun!

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Of course all good things must come to an end and after we got home, Chelsea and I were exhausted!!!

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This is my happiness post. This picture was also taken back around Christmas time and we are ALWAYS excited about Christmas…just as right now..I’m super ecstatic to start my forever career as a Daycare director! It has been so nice with friends, family, and school employees congratulating me. I’m just as happy right now about my new position as I was at this moment when I took this picture- Oh, and that man standing with me- yeah, he was the one who told me to never give up and keep trying and one day you’ll get to where you want to be:)

 

Ok, that’s enough blogging for tonight.

Good Night:)

Moms, Minivans, & Messes

Jessica Bohn Bishop: KEEP Collective

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Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What is the name of your business and who are your potential customers?

KEEP: I am a Founding Director with social selling company KEEP Collective (from the believers who brought us Stella & Dot,) and my potential customers are storytellers. Each keepsake “Keeper” design is a wearable touchstone, an instant reminder of the big things, the small things, and all things that matter.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Why did you choose (Your above answer) as your customers?

KEEP: KEEP Collective shares a deep belief that living a happy life comes from always keeping in mind what truly matters. Love, faith, friendship, family, hope, and adventure. So we are storytellers- helping others reflect on and share the moments and milestones that make up their one-of-a-kind life. 

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Are you a mom? If so, did this business have anything to do with initiating KEEP? 

KEEP: I am not currently a mom, however, I did choose this social selling brand with the idea that I will start a family in the future and the truly flexible entrepreneurship that this company provides is just what I’ll need to spend quality time with my children whenever and wherever I want to.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What do you expect to be the outcome of “KEEP”? 

KEEP: The outcome of KEEP is that I will continue to live the happiest life possible while focusing on all of the things that matter in my life as well as leading other women to finding what truly makes them happy as well! Designing my life makes me happy, so that I can make the people I love happy. It is my best gift to the world. It is with joy and love that as a KEEP Designer I fulfill my mission to give every woman the means to design her one-of-a -kind life.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Where can I find information about “KEEP”? 

KEEP: There are a few ways that you can find more information about the KEEP brand. My personal website is www.keep-collective.com/with/jbohnbishop, however the best way to gain more information on opening your own business, shopping, or getting your Keepers free is to email me at jbohnbishop@gmail.com. Be sure to reference this blog!

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Are there any promotions for your KEEP products through reading this blog?

KEEP: If you’re reading this blog, you qualify for a FREE key (charm) with your purchase of $50 or more with Designer J Bohn Bishop ONLY. Be sure to email me first atjbohnbishop@gmail.com and mention this blog!

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Who is “KEEP”? (One mom, multiple moms, etc.)

KEEP: KEEP Collective is a team of dreamers, doers, daughters, wives, and mothers. We are renovating the home-based business model for our times. We are a billion-dollar global brand in the making. We invest our hearts, our smarts, and our unbending will to make it happen. We are our only competition. The way it’s always been done is never flattering on us. We create. We reinvent. We learn. We get more creative. We do it better next time. We make no excuses. We find a way.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Can you tell me how KEEP will keep moms feeling GLAM?

KEEP: We get great joy out of designing irresistible keepsakes. And yet, there is something much greater we are creating. We have a vision of the world where strong women live bold and joyful lives. They know what they want and they work for it. They inspire each other. Passion and joy are their best accessories.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: A portion of the KEEP Collective Manifesto:

KEEP: We know that success is not predetermined for the exclusive few.  Success is nothing more than getting up every single morning, and getting to work, writing our own stories. And we make no apologies about benefiting from the success we work hard and smart to create. We are here to make a living. And a solid one at that. Our income gives us peace of mind, pays the bills, buys take-out when we’re busy, puts our kids through college, and gives opportunity to many other women along the way. We’re proud of that. We love writing our own stories. We hold the pen.

Trim-A-Rim

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Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What is the name of your business and product and who are your potential customers?

Trim-A-Rim: The business is Innoversa Corp.  We chose that name as a combination of “innovative” and “versatile”.  Our first product (or at least the first one that we’ve taken all the way through the development process and brought to market) is Trim-A-Rim.  Trim-A-Rim is the world’s first and only reversible magnetic whiteboard and mirror that is fully customizable by its owner.  Potential customers would be anybody aged 8 and above.  While there are younger Trim-A-Rim owners, we age-graded our product at 8+.  Our three most enthusiastic customer groups tend to be ‘tween and teen girls for their school lockers (using the Mini size), college-aged females for their dorm rooms (typically the Full size), and crafty moms (often for the fridge, and again typically the Full size) — in addition to folks purchasing a gift for these demographics.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes:Why did you choose (Your above answer) as your customers?

Trim-A-Rim: We chose the 8 and above age grading for safety reasons, in compliance with industry standards and US Consumer Product Safety Commission guidelines, due to the potential scissors involvement.  Some Trim-A-Rim border options involve scissors-cutting, and the more carefully and precisely the paper border inserts are cut out, the better they’ll fit and appear in the clear frame of our product.  From customer comments, we know our product is also given as a gift to younger children, who enjoy Trim-A-Rim with their parents’ or older siblings’ assistance if they wish to cut out new borders besides the already-cut ones that come in the box.

Regarding the main market segments noted above who tend to be our biggest fans, that just kind of happened naturally, although we did design the smaller sized Mini (at 7-1/2″ diameter) with lockers in mind, so the ‘tween and teen market for that size was to be expected.  We also anticipated that moms would be drawn to the Full-size version (10-1/4″ diameter) for use as a message board and note-taking aid on the fridge, but have been pleasantly surprised how popular the coloring aspect has been, and now we offer lots of free black & white border options on our website to satisfy that demand.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Are you a mom? If so, did this business have anything to do with initiating Trim A Rim?

Trim-A-Rim: No, I’m not a mom, and not even a dad, at least not yet.  But I have a mom and she’s awesome, and I’m a big fan of moms!  We’ve participated in a large mom bloggers conference and various mom-focused blogs.  I invented this product in response to something that one of my nieces requested as a holiday gift a few years ago — I couldn’t find exactly what she wanted, so instead I decided to get the various components so that we could make it together as a fun craft.  That led to thinking about how to develop this into a creativity kit that would appeal to moms looking for a good party activity or family game night type of craft.  I wanted it to result in something genuinely practical and useful that would continue to inspire creativity, rather than something like another piece of painted pottery that would likely end up collecting dust on a shelf.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What do you expect to be the outcome of “Trim A Rim”?

Trim-A-Rim: I really hope that it inspires people of all ages, regardless of how crafty they think they are, to be creative and show their own personal style, or to give them an easy and affordable way to personalize a meaningful gift for someone else.  Every aspect of Trim-A-Rim is intended to be a creativity platform… the customizable, infinitely-changeable borders; the note magnets, which are fun to dress up with stickers to compliment the border theme; the dry erase board as a creative canvas; etc.  And from a business perspective, I hope we can gain enough traction and market penetration to allow us to introduce a family of cool add-on products we have on the drawing board.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Where can I find information about “Trim A Rim”?

Trim-A-Rim: Aside from a few mom & pop type stores, Trim-A-Rim is currently available only on our own website and on Amazon…and to be honest, the best deals are typically on Amazon, especially with their free shipping options.  We have a lot of information and photos in our Amazon listings, accessible at http://www.amazon.com/trimarim.  You can also see the product in action on our YouTube channel at http://www.youtube.com/trimarim.  Plus we have lots of photos and info on our Facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/trimarim.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Are there any promotions for your products through reading this blog?

Trim-A-Rim: Yes, your readers can get an additional 30% off the current sale prices on Amazon by entering the coupon code Minivans during check-out, through March 14.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What sets your product apart from similar products like yours?

Trim-A-Rim: Several features set us apart… to the best of our knowledge, ours is the only product in its market that is a reversible 2-in-1 whiteboard and mirror, and also the only such product that allows you to easily and repeatedly change the border design.  In addition to the easy-change nature of that border, we offer far more DIY options than any similar product, including our full-featured online Design Studio and dozens of full-color and black & white borders for free download.  Plus Trim-A-Rim is made with higher quality, more durable materials than our competitors’ offerings.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What does the future look like for Trim A Rim?

Trim-A-Rim: We hope to build on this first product to introduce several fun and equally creative accessories and next-generation offerings, all of which will help people of all ages show their own personal style.  

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: How can your products be beneficial to my readers?

Trim-A-Rim: Beyond the basic utility of a dry erase board and mirror, Trim-A-Rim suits your style, or the style of any gift recipient.  We’re all about inspiring and celebrating individuality and creative expression.  Whether it’s a middle-schooler decorating her locker, a college freshman setting up her first dorm room, a mom spiffing up the kitchen fridge, or a group of friends and family enjoying craft-time together, Trim-A-Rim lets everybody show their own personal interests, passions and style.  No more being stuck with only a few options or having the same cookie-cutter design as everybody else who went to that chain store and picked out the same whiteboard or same mirror.  We love seeing Trim-A-Rim owners using our product to bring friends and family-members together in a fun creative way, so that even somebody who says “I’m terrible at art” or “I’m not really a crafts person” can have a great time and very easily create an end result that they’re delighted with.  And best of all is that the end result is something that everybody can genuinely use and continue enjoying year-round for years and years.

VA Paint Party: Birthday Party Fun

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Recently, at the last minute, we had the opportunity to have a paint party birthday party for our oldest daughter, since she enjoys arts and crafts. It was a huge success! We had the opportunity to have our party at our local froyo place, Sweet Frog. I also had the privilege to interview the owner of VA Paint Party, Misty Adams.

 

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Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What is the name of your business and who are your potential customers? 

VA Paint Party: The name of my business is VA Paint Party, LLC.  My potential customer is…. ANYONE!  Any age – young to senior, male or females!  All ages have a lot of fun.

 

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Why did you choose (Your above answer) as your customers? 

VA Paint Party: There are several great competitors out there in the same industry and I knew I had to find a niche in this market.  Offering paint parties to everyone is it! 

You can have your kids sitting right beside you painting along on their own canvas as well as offering a unique birthday party for them. We have had birthday parties for kids starting at age 4 all the way to a young 71st birthday!

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Are you a mom? If so, did this business have anything to do with initiating VA Paint Party?

VA Paint Party: I am a very proud mother of 3.  A stepmom to two and one of my own. Their ages range from 21, 18, and 17.  I wanted our kid to know that dreams come true!  If you work hard and focus – you can be successful in all you do!

Moms, Minivans, & Messes:  What do you expect to be the outcome of “VA Paint Party”?

VA Paint Party: I have very high goals for VA Paint Party.  I started as a one woman show and within less than 4 months, I now have 5 sub-contractors to keep up with demand.  Main goal is to offer exceptional customer service and we fit the needs to every paint party – that will always be the main goal. As far as the future, we are interested in piggybacking with existing business locations to use space when available.  We would love to offer more classes in a stable environment.  Even though we currently go to the customer, some clients also ask if there is a location they can come to.  We are working on finding solutions for their needs.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Where can I find information about “VA Paint Party”?

VA Paint Party: So glad you asked!    www.vapaintparty.com as well as find us on Facebook – VA Paint Party

Also, Email :  vapaintparty@gmail.com or Call/text me!  540-583-0686

Moms, Minivans, & Messes:  Are there any promotions for your products through reading this blog? 

VA Paint Party: Yes!  

Kids Promotion:   My current prices are $20 each at child’s party. For this blog, I am offering $15 a child – minimum of 6 children.

Adult Promotion:  My current prices are $25 a person.  For this blog, I will offer $20 an adult – minimum of 8. 

FUNdraisers – $20 a head – You decide the price to sell tickets for.  Anything over $20 a person is theirs to keep. Normally ranges from $25-$35 a ticket.

We also bring ALL art supplies.  We only ask there are tables, chairs, and access to water. 

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Who is “VA Paint Party”? (One mom, multiple moms, etc.)

VA Paint Party: Great question!

VA Paint Party is an instructional canvas painting party.  We take everyone stroke by stroke on how to paint a picture that was chosen by the host.  We are very hands on and insure a fun time and a great picture!  We do kid’s parties, adult parties, FUNdraisers, church events, team building, WE DO IT ALL!

We also come to you!  That could be your home – church – your favorite restaurant – anywhere! 

Also, out of the 6 that work for VA Paint Party, 5 of us are mom’s.

Mom Instructors:

Misty Adams, Owner, Instructor,  – 2 boys and 1 girl

Jenn, Instructor, 4 teenage girls

Kara, Instructor, 2 boys

Kelli, Instructor – 2 girls

Angie, Instructor – 3 girls

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What sets your Paint business apart from others?

VA Paint Party:  There are several things:

1.  There are no age limits.

2.  We come to you!

3.  You have over 50 pictures to choose from when you are hosting a party.

4. The host works with the owner to plan for the party.  I will make sure everything is setup to plan accordingly.  

5.  We will customize a painting for FREE!

6.  We are a true local business – based in Bedford, VA.  We are not a franchise or a licensee.  True home grown local business.

7.  We give the most back to fundraisers.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes:  What does the future look like for VA Paint Party?

VA Paint Party:  The future is bright!  As a team, we work together to find fun and innovated ideas to bring to our potential and existing customers. For an example, we offer glow in the dark paintings for adults and kids. We are growing fast and we love every second of it!

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: How can your products be beneficial to my readers?

VA Paint Party: Painting is calming, it’s fun, and everyone has a smile on their face.  It can be an escape and a way to tap into or even spark a creative side!

I remember trying to plan parties for my son and it was always the same options, we offer fun and unique ideas for parties throughout the whole year. 

You don’t have to worry if it’s going to rain, if it’s cold, if it’s too hot, — this is a sure fire way to make sure everyone has a great time and is proud of their very own masterpieces. 

The Home Loving Wife

The Home Loving Wife
Photo Credit: Amber Burke with Mamaratzzi Photography
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Describe your family(# of children, how long you have been married, etc.)
The Home Loving Wife: My husband, Andrew, and I have been married nearly 7 years and we have 4 beautiful daughters – Julianna Claire (5), Sophia Nicole (4), Chloe Audrina (2) and Isabel Rosalee (1). We make our home and raise our family on the East Coast, in Charlotte, NC. We are a fun, crazy family that loves princess movies (well, us girls anyway!) trips to the beach, snuggles on the couch and pizza night!
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What do you miss most about life prior to children?
The Home Loving Wife: I miss the free time – those moments where I didn’t have to be anywhere, doing anything and I had complete discretion over how I spent that time without having to consider anyone else’s needs. Also, being able to have a bit more freedom with my husband – to run out for sushi if we didn’t feel like cooking or run to the grocery store for a few things without having to cart our whole entourage along with us haha!!
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What will you do different with your kids than your parents did with you?
The Home Loving Wife: My biggest hope is that my kids grow up with a deeply-rooted sense of gratitude and generosity (something that wasn’t cultivated in my home growing up) as well as an understanding of how to take personal responsibility for their choices and the consequences of those choices. I want my kids to be empowered to make good choices on their own instead of learning to simply follow rules. And I am very intentional about being 100% honest and open with my children (in an age-appropriate manner) when they ask questions – I want them to know the real answers to things and how the world really works so they aren’t surprised by anything later on. And I want them to trust me!
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What was the deciding factor to becoming a permanent Stay at Home Mom?
The Home Loving Wife: My husband and I were both raised in households where our mothers were primarily stay-at-home mamas, so we both grew up envisioning that being the case when we had our own families. This was something we discussed before even getting married – we wanted me to be able to stay home and homeschool our children whenever that time came. When I became pregnant with our first daughter, I stopped working halfway through the pregnancy and haven’t been back to work since – though I have pursued other avenues to earn income from home since then. The biggest thing for me was that I wanted to be as present as possible in all the aspects of my children’s development. I nannied for a few years before having children, and while I think every family’s needs and circumstances are very different, I knew I didn’t want to have someone else primarily caring for or raising my kids. I knew at the end of the day I’d rather them have more of ME in their lives as opposed to us living more comfortably financially.
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: How well do you think you handle being a parent?
The Home Loving Wife: I think that on most days I rock this whole mom thing out. I mean, nobody has died in the last 6 years, so that is a serious win!! But in all seriousness, there are SO many aspects to motherhood that are really intense and I lose it way more often than I’d like to admit to. And what’s interesting, is that in a lot of ways I feel like the longer I’m a parent, the less I have black and white answers figured out. I’ve learned that in order to be able to have patience, be calm and kind and handle the chaos of motherhood with dignity I have to do a good job of taking care of myself. When I don’t, everything gets thrown off and I’m no longer in control of my reactions and behavior.
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What was your first motherhood panic?
The Home Loving Wife: The first time my oldest daughter slept through the night in her own room when she was just 8 weeks old. I remember waking after a long, blissful night of sleep in a panic because I realized I hadn’t woken up with the baby at all and thought I hadn’t turned my monitor on! I rushed to her room thinking I’d find her dead or comatose from crying all night – and instead I found her still soundly asleep in her bed!
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: When do you find time for yourself?
The Home Loving Wife: I’ve learned that it really doesn’t work to wait and hope you “find” time for yourself as a mom – you have to be really intentional about creating time for yourself. What tends to work the best for me is to plan out my week in advance and schedule in blocks of time throughout my day and week where I will accomplish things that fuel my mind, body or soul. And being in open communication with my husband about when I need his help to make sure I have that time is essential. I like to wake up at least an hour before I get my kids up so that I have the opportunity to “fill my own cup” before pouring myself out on my kids behalf all day. Also, I pepper self care things through my day, often including the kids, such as eating good meals/snacks, exercising or taking a 15 minute quiet break to read.
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: How do you picture your kids in ten years time?
The Home Loving Wife: Wow, well….my children will be 15, 14, 12 and 11….which is NUTS to even think about haha!! I picture them all being each other’s best friends. I picture them all thriving in their lives, excelling at what they do and living in their passions. I picture them positively impacting others lives by living lives of love, grace, gratitude and generosity. And I picture having SO much fun with them – traveling, getting our hair and nails done, talking about life and having dance parties in our pajamas in the living room!
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What is the hardest part about being a mom?
The Home Loving Wife: In this season of having several very young children, the biggest challenge is feeling sucked dry mentally, emotionally and physically. I am a BIG introvert, so having people around me, talking to me, touching me and needing me all day, every day is EXHAUSTING. By nature I prefer lots of quiet and solitude – which is the opposite of my life right now haha!! This is why I’ve found it to be SO essential to MAKE as much time as possible throughout my day to intentionally recharge myself.
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: How does your spouse help you around the home?
The Home Loving Wife: My spouse is the most incredible human being in the world. He is an unbelievably helpful, loving, caring and supportive partner. There is virtually NOTHING that he wouldn’t do if I asked him (although I am generally the poopy diaper changer, except in case of emergency or necessity haha!!) He is gone from about 7am-6:30pm during the week, but in the evenings he’s great about taking over for me if I’ve had a long day and need a break, and on the weekends he is all hands on deck to help accomplish whatever I’d like to. He’s great about helping with household chores if I ask, taking charge of the kids so I can have some time to myself and he is the BEST at caring for and loving ME.
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I would like to thank the Van Kirk family for taking time out of their busy schedule for this interview!
Enjoy!
Moms, Minivans, & Messes