Chaos & Love

It’s quarter to seven in the morning and I’m halfway falling off the bed from a little boy who needed mama and a baby girl who also needed mama. Regardless of the time, I needed to journal.

Oh, if you’re wondering where my husband and other child are- they are sleeping on the couch. Not because we are fighting or mad at each other, but because he had a really nice sleep and our little girl wanted to sleep next to him. 💜

The chaos can be fun and other times it can be disastrous. We have to choose how to respond to it..

1. Do we want to Love through the Chaos, or

2. Be Bitter through the Chaos

It’s hunting season and while raising three kids is hard all by itself, life goes on and doesn’t stop for anyone.

I find myself getting bitter at the beginning of hunting season because I instantly become a single mom/widow/whatever you want to call it, but, regardless, I’m the one trying to resolve and argue with my kids who will be cleaning up the cow poop they stepped in and brought it into the house.

I find priorities being pushed back further and further.

Somehow, my husband can come home at 7:30-8pm and be exhausted from working all day on the family farm, but I’m still left to keep the house running.

Dishes can be piled up and not get clean and like our dishwasher currently that is not cleaning the dishes and leaving residue-I’m the one who is responsible for getting them done.

I’m not bitter, I just want to be better.

Ok, let’s put all that aside and look at the positives:

  • My husband is not having glamorous love affairs on 9th street
  • My husband isn’t selling or using drugs
  • My husband surely isn’t running a small town sweat shop

NO!

He is…

  • Working hard
  • Helping his family
  • Hunting to provide the steady flow of meat our family needs to survive
  • Teaching our children life lessons that will never be taught anywhere else

The Chaos immediately turns into Love when I see my husband setting a good Godly example for our family. The Love he shares through hunting, processing, and other things they do on the farm will be passed on to our children.

The Chaos comes to a halt when he fits in hunting time together for just the two of us🦌

For now, I’m going to continue to pray that God continues to keep us together through all this chaos..I’m going to pray that God continues to show his love through my husband and our children learning life lessons that can only be taught through our Lord.

Do you find yourself and your life being Chaotic?

Share with how you handle it..I’d love to hear from you💜

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Consumed with Limited Influences

For the past several months, my focus was diverted to my career path and I had quickly forgotten many duties.
My Godly Duties

My Spousal Duties

My family Duties

My home Duties

The list goes on and on and on. I was so consumed by my work that I honestly just forgotten my motherly Duties and all the Duties listen above.
God allows things to happen at the right moment at the right time and while some days we may not understand the meaning or the know in it all, we have to be still and know that our Lord has a greater path for us, always!

This was the first time I was able to spend an evening with my husband and go on an annual date! We spent our ten year anniversary singing and dancing, well mostly me singing and dancing, along with Carrie Underwood.  


We had a blast and even enjoyed each other’s company. I couldn’t believe how much time I wasted away from my husband and this beautiful family we created for a job. 
My husband And I discussed many things on the way to the concert, but the one thing my husband said made me realize why we are still married,”I will support you in anything you do” I could mess up a million times and my husband would still have my back. 
We had a truly great time and we’re just in awe that we have survived as a couple this long.

Our three beautiful kids that we made..I was consumed with my job and put them on the back burner. What was I thinking?! Each of our children needed my time and I was consumed with other things that I had forgotten about their needs and how they needed their father. Kaylee needed a lot of attention with our ADHD, Chelsea needed more love, hugs, and kisses, and Walker just wanted more cuddle time. I had forgotten about all that. It was pretty selfish of me and I’ve realized that I had wasted three months of my life neglecting my children to care for other children.

Since I stepped away from my career, I have been able to spend more time with my God, keeping my children more in touch with my Lord, and spending more time in my daily devotions-feeding my soul, that was also neglected.


Since then, I’ve had so much time to consume myself and my responsibilities with positive influences! I’ve never been happier; my children are happier and are learning more about God. My husband and I are finally communicating more about our love for one another and life has been pretty laid back and happy!


God has finally put our life on track, so don’t ever limit your influences and consume them with what God doesn’t want because if you listen, he will tell you!

Paper & Parties Co

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Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Who are Paper & Parties Co customers?

Paper & Party Co.: My usual customers are mothers, fathers, brides, and brides families and friends. That’s pretty specific, huh?
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Why did you choose (Your above answer) as your customers?
Paper & Party Co.:Based on conversations I have with my customers before a purchase. They are always so excited about their special event and vision and I try and make that come to life for them through my designs.
Moms, Minivans, & MessesAre you a mom? If so, did Paper and Parties Co. have anything to do with initiating the business?

Paper & Party Co.:I am a mom. I have an amazing, supportive husband and a one year old daughter named Lily. I have always been an entrepreneur. I owned a restaurant at 24 and knowing that I wanted to get married and start a family I left that venture and went to work a 9-5. I realized pretty quickly that that wasn’t for me and dabbled in a few other businesses before this one stuck. It marries my passion for DIY, creating and business perfectly…and who doesn’t love a party?
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What do you expect to be the outcome of Papers and Parties Co.?
Paper & Party Co.:I would love to continue to grow my Etsy shop and branch out into other avenues, maybe even a brick and mortar boutique.
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Where can I find information about Paper and Parties Co.?
Paper & Party Co.:I love to encourage people to follow me on Instagram (@paperandpartiesco).
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Are there any promotions for Paper and Parties Co. through reading this blog?
Paper & Party Co.:Yes! You can use coupon code MMMPARTY at checkout and receive 15% off your party decor.
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Who does Paper and Parties Co. represent? (One mom, multiple moms, etc.)

Paper & Party Co.:Right now we are a one mom show but would love the opportunity to employ other moms in the future.
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Can you tell me how Paper and Parties Co. will keep moms feeling GLAM?

Paper & Party Co.:Everyone is into Pinterest parties right now but who has the time? I suggest people focus on the part they love doing, maybe that’s the baking or the photography or styling a fabulous party and hire out some of the other things. It is much less stressful and there is more time to enjoy your event. (Maybe you’ll even have time to put on some mascara and brush your hair before the guests arrive😂)

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What does the future look like for Paper and Parties Co.?Paper & Party Co.:The future looks amazing. Tons of new designs and keeping up with party trends. We love making custom orders, feedback and party photos from all our customers.

 

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Can you individualize your service moms and how?

Paper & Party Co.:The beautiful thing about Etsy is it still has a small business feel. I have customers everyday asking for custom colors and designs. We love creating something special and unique.

Advice about Marriage

My advice about marriage is to STOP COMPARING your spouse to other spouses.
We have been married for almost ten years now and boy did it go by fast! One of the struggles I’ve dealt with is comparison in our marriage and boy was it a struggle.

We had many arguments that were escalated because my husband couldn’t change a tire, fix the plumbing, clean up after himself, and so forth, like other husbands I thought could. I was always looking on to other marriages and thinking of how my husband could be different if he took the initiative and learned how to do something for a change. Looking back, it really wasn’t his fault, his dad’s fault, or anyone else’s fault..he really just was never taught and I married him for his love, not for his ability on whether or not he was able to do something or not. 

Recently, I showed my husband the power of YouTube. They have many step by step tutorials that allow you to fix something and we had a plumbing issue..he was able to watch the video and instantly fix it. I was so proud of my husband and acknowledged his accomplishments. 

He has been a bit more pro-active in fixing things around the house and I have been more lenient in the comparison department, actually, I haven’t been comparing, since realizing that all I need from him are his efforts and attempts to try and learn. 

Comparing my husband to another and arguing with him over something silly was just eating up time away that I could have been praising him or loving him. 

I tend to keep this quote close to my heart whenever an issues arises in the home and it needs to be fixed:  Enjoy the time with the person you fell in love with and not the person you want them to be:)