Chaos & Love

It’s quarter to seven in the morning and I’m halfway falling off the bed from a little boy who needed mama and a baby girl who also needed mama. Regardless of the time, I needed to journal.

Oh, if you’re wondering where my husband and other child are- they are sleeping on the couch. Not because we are fighting or mad at each other, but because he had a really nice sleep and our little girl wanted to sleep next to him. 💜

The chaos can be fun and other times it can be disastrous. We have to choose how to respond to it..

1. Do we want to Love through the Chaos, or

2. Be Bitter through the Chaos

It’s hunting season and while raising three kids is hard all by itself, life goes on and doesn’t stop for anyone.

I find myself getting bitter at the beginning of hunting season because I instantly become a single mom/widow/whatever you want to call it, but, regardless, I’m the one trying to resolve and argue with my kids who will be cleaning up the cow poop they stepped in and brought it into the house.

I find priorities being pushed back further and further.

Somehow, my husband can come home at 7:30-8pm and be exhausted from working all day on the family farm, but I’m still left to keep the house running.

Dishes can be piled up and not get clean and like our dishwasher currently that is not cleaning the dishes and leaving residue-I’m the one who is responsible for getting them done.

I’m not bitter, I just want to be better.

Ok, let’s put all that aside and look at the positives:

  • My husband is not having glamorous love affairs on 9th street
  • My husband isn’t selling or using drugs
  • My husband surely isn’t running a small town sweat shop

NO!

He is…

  • Working hard
  • Helping his family
  • Hunting to provide the steady flow of meat our family needs to survive
  • Teaching our children life lessons that will never be taught anywhere else

The Chaos immediately turns into Love when I see my husband setting a good Godly example for our family. The Love he shares through hunting, processing, and other things they do on the farm will be passed on to our children.

The Chaos comes to a halt when he fits in hunting time together for just the two of us🦌

For now, I’m going to continue to pray that God continues to keep us together through all this chaos..I’m going to pray that God continues to show his love through my husband and our children learning life lessons that can only be taught through our Lord.

Do you find yourself and your life being Chaotic?

Share with how you handle it..I’d love to hear from you💜

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Would you Rather…True Confessions from an Honest Mom

Oh, Hi, it’s just me again! Moms are faced with decisions from day to day, sometimes even minutes to minutes and you need to act fast. Here are some of my “Would you Rather” confessions.

  1. Would you rather stay up all night arguing with a three year old about NOT sleeping in your bed OR just let him sleep in your bed?                             Well, if you chose arguing with your child, then you would be WRONG.  You see, sleep is important to working families and I would RATHER have sleep with two inches of space, hit in the face with a leg, or have your child swim around in the bed being apart of one of his dream adventures than to argue with him about how he will not be sleeping in our bed tonight.
  2. Would you rather have a TV in the kids room or have a TV in your room?      Well, that’s a no-brainer. I would rather have a TV in the kid’s room because I can get them to bed quicker, which then adds more time to my “me” time in the evenings, and I can enjoy what quiet the dog will allow me to have. Let’s be honest, that not having a TV in the kid’s room is pure BS. If watching Polar Express and Frozen gets them to sleep, then pass me another TV and I’ll be glad to let them watch both movies at the same time.
  3. Would you rather have happy kids and a messy house or be miserable with a clean house?                                                                                                                      Let’s be honest, the only reason my house is clean right now is because my mom cleaned up for us. I feel like I’m constantly yelling more at the kids when I’m attempting to clean with them-F it, they don’t want to help clean and I’d rather send them outside so they could run all of that energy out of their system so they can go to sleep, I mean, get a better night’s rest. 😉
  4. Would you rather eat instant Mac and Cheese and chicken nuggets for the rest of your life or have to feed your kid a five-course meal every day?           Um, Chicken nuggets….DUH! Because every night I come home and have to prepare a five course meal, that takes away time from homework time, precious quality time, and my favorite…bed time! ZZZzzz.
  5. Would you rather clean the entire kitchen by yourself or give your kids a bath by yourself?                                                                                                                 Let’s be honest, as parents, we reach a certain point, at a certain age where the oldest child can watch out for the younger children in the bathtub. So, I would rather clean the entire kitchen by myself WHILE the kids are bathing, not to mention, there is always the 99% chance your bathroom will become God’s next people killing flood.
  6. Would you rather have your kids say “fuck” in your house when they wanted or have your kids say “how the fuck are you?” to their grandparents or teachers just once?                                                                             I’m not going to lie, this is the first year for our family having a child in Kindergarten coming home with other kids saying more bad words than I ever could have imagined. Don’t even read this post thinking, “My child would never say that word at their age”….lies.
  7. Would you rather put your kids down on a public toilet you aren’t able to clean first or go wipe a public toilet for your kids using only one square of toilet paper?                                                                                                                          All I have to say is…..gross! Next question, please.
  8. Would you rather have your kids walk in on you and a partner in the middle of a sexual rendezvous or have your face be permanently the color your face would be if your kids walked in on you having a sexual rendezvous?                                                                                                                          Well, so much for putting the kids to bed early on hubby’s next day off, wait, that’s today!
  9. Would you rather drink your child’s backwash or eat their chewed food?       I’m a mom and if you didn’t catch that upon opening up my blog, then let me be honest and let you know that both of these things have probably happen in a matter of life or death or pure desperation.
  10. Would you rather babysit a kid who hates your kid, or go on a play date where you can’t stand the mom?                                                                                   Survey says, Play date. Simple, just let the other mom know you had a death in the family or the husband needs an oral cleansing. I’m pretty sure that mom will NEVER ask you for a play date again.

I hope your enjoyed these questions, please feel free to leave your comments and answers below! I’d love to hear from you on your “Would you Rathers”.

 

We’re happy to see you, 2016!

 

Welcome to 2016

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The year of Family, Faith, and Finances for our family! We counted down with the TV last night, all of us together, and watched the ball drop. 5,4,3,2,1….Happy New Year! (Hugs and Kisses to each one of us) We hope you are welcoming the New Year in your own way, just as we are doing.

chattin kids new year(This picture of our kids were on our local news this morning: WSLS Channel 10 Roanoke, VA)

Finances:

The husband and I sat down and discussed finances this morning and we are starting the new year out by using an amazing money saving budget app: Level Money. Level Money is pin protected, so no worries about someone hacking into your personal information. Level money allows you to set a plan that also makes a visual, for visual learners like myself. There are four categories that allow you to visually see where your money is going.

  1. Income: This allows you to see everything that is deposited into your account. (Oh, did I mention, it syncs with your bank account?!-Amazing)
  2. Bills: Every single bill that you’re responsible for that is paid.
  3. AutoSave: This is such an amazing part of the app- it allows you to instantly save money, which separates the amount of spendable money you can keep and what you want to save.
  4. Spendable: The spendable part of the app lets you see how much you can take out for personal purchases each paycheck.

It was such a nice conversation that we had about finances. It was way overdue. It’s going to be tough to stick with it, but it will take routine, consistency, and effort. (Pictures below)

Family:

The family and I were lazy this morning, but at least we were together and were enjoying each other’s company. I had the kids sit down together at the table for snacks and playtime-no tv, no electronics, it was nice. We limit the kid’s electronic use for strictly for positive reinforcement, generally once or twice a week for ten minutes. Young kids need to be outside enjoying life, not cooped up playing on a device inside. I try to keep the rule of thumb, if it’s at least 35 degrees than they should be playing outside. (They’re outside playing now while I write)

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Faith: 

The husband and I also discussed getting back on track with the good Lord who has blessed up x 1,000. We have finally found a good program our kids enjoy, so that makes the battle so much easier. Chris and I will be working on each other, our relationship, our children, and physical & mental. This was the easiest and best track that we found that could help us walk in our faith.

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From our family to yours, we hope you are welcomed into 2016 with warm, loving, and happiness arms!

Year 2015 Interview

For the past three years, I’ve been interviewing each one of my children so that we can look back and see just how their choices impacted their lives. Below are the three interviews I have conducted and their pictures! Enjoy!

Year 2015 Interview with Kaylee 

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  1. I am this old: Six 
  2. My favorite show: Spongebob Squarepants
  3. My favorite thing about school: Being in first grade
  4. My favorite color is: Purple, blue, and dark pink
  5. My favorite movie: Inside Out
  6. What do you want to be when you grow up: Veterinarian
  7. What do you love to do with Mom: Cuddle
  8. What do you love to do with Dad: Laugh
  9. My favorite Sport: Cheerleading
  10. My best friend: Emma Jean, Maddison, Carter, and Logan
  11. My favorite Holiday: Christmas
  12. My favorite Animal: Kitten
  13. My favorite Season: Winter
  14. I like to take these to bed at night:  Wear minion pajamas, Unicorny, Sealer, and Quaily
  15. My favorite food: Fruit Loops

Year 2015 Interview with Chelsea

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  1. I am this old: Five
  2. My favorite show: My Little Pony
  3. My favorite thing about school: Coloring in Kindergarten
  4. My favorite color is: All the colors of the rainbow
  5. My favorite movie: Deer Hunting Movies with Daddy
  6. What do you want to be when you grow up: An Agriculture Teacher
  7. What do you love to do with Mom: Give hugs and kisses
  8. What do you love to do with Dad: Hunt
  9. My favorite Sport: Soccer
  10. My best friend: Jessica, Chloe, Kaleigh, Kallie Anne, Mikey, and Myself
  11. My favorite Holiday: Thanksgiving
  12. My favorite Animal: Chickens, Cats, and Puppies
  13. My favorite Season: Summer
  14. I like to take these to bed at night:  My blankey and lady buggy
  15. My favorite food: French fries, chicken nuggets, corn, and mac and cheese. 

Year 2015 Interview with Walker

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  1. I am this old: Three
  2. My favorite show: Thomas
  3. My favorite thing about school: I’m not in school
  4. My favorite color is: Blue
  5. My favorite movie: Thomas
  6. What do you want to be when you grow up: Thomas
  7. What do you love to do with Mom: Protect Mommy
  8. What do you love to do with Dad: Ride a Train 
  9. My favorite Sport: Football
  10. My best friend: PJ (I don’t know who PJ is-Haha)
  11. My favorite Holiday: Christmas
  12. My favorite Animal: Giraffe
  13. My favorite Season: Winter
  14. I like to take these to bed at night:  Thomas
  15. My favorite food: French fries with no ketchup

Birthdays, Family, and Love

Walker turned three Friday and we celebrated by having a small birthday celebration for him. He has been addicted to trains, mainly Thomas and friends & his daddy’s job, so we had a small train themed party for him. It’s sad my baby is growing up!

Speaking of, which, growing up, Walker is just about potty trained!!! A huge thanks to my mom who certainly is the reason why Walker is 80% trained. What a huge relief that was for our family. When you have multiples, it gets exhausting and you feel like giving up. It’s kind of like my job as a behavior counselor-when the client’s behaviors aren’t changing, you need an intervention from another counselor because you’ve become the reason why things aren’t changing, in our case, potty training. Sending him to my mothers house for about two weeks just made perfect sense-she was the intervention he needed to have someone else step in and say, okay, I’ll try it and if he’s not ready then you’ll have to give him more time. Now he is just about potty trained and we continue to reinforce those positive potty behaviors.

Thanks Mom!

Speaking of family, we have a new family member (Picture below) Rudolph Chattin. He is a beagle mountain fiest. Now, in the past, we have had dogs that we had to return or give away because it wasn’t the perfect fit or God was letting us know it wasn’t the right time for our family to have a dog(You feel guilty, but it has to be God’s time, not your time). Anyway, since we aren’t able to have anymore kids due to my cardiomyopathy, and Walker becoming independent, we figured it was a great time to start shopping. We wanted something small and easily managed so the kids could take care of the majority of the responsibility. The girls cheerleading coach told us that their beagle and mountain fiest were having puppies and that we could have one! We were thrilled and it just felt right! The girls and I picked him up and Chelsea named him Rudolph(Chris, begs to differ by calling him Rudy, but we will manage). We have been so proud of the girls-taking care of their chickens, cats, and now dog water and food twice a day. Our kiddos never cease to amaze me! 

We met my aunt in West Virginia yesterday to hand Chelsea over to her, who is taking her on a Disney cruise to the Bahamas for Christmas. Currently, she is spending the night with her great grandma, so that is very special. My nana was also surprised since she didn’t know Chelsea was going! She’s going to have a blast! That girl will make memories that will last a lifetime!

Kaylee will be meeting with her girlfriends this week as she prepares to say goodbye to one of her good friends, Makayla. She and her family are moving to Germany! We hope to make her time with us extra special before she leaves.

A huge thanks to Nathan Switzer, who helped design my new logo for my blog! Picture below! 

The girls had an amazing time making ornaments and using only two ingredients: Applesauce and cinnamon! It was a wonderful idea and made great presents for their teachers at school.

    
    
    
 

That’s it for now!

A Mother’s Duty

Last night was the Christmas pageant at our children’s school. They all did a great job! I’ll post pictures below. I enjoyed letting each girl know how proud I was of them, while others may have looked on at that “weird” mom, I knew it brought a happy cheer to my heart that they were satisfied. I also did it to a friends daughter also! 

Sometimes parenting is difficult and you don’t know what to do, what to say, or how to respond. Last night after the show was over our girls watched as a girl in their class was being yelled at and questions followed on the way home. It’s so hard to explain difficult situations to them, especially, when they are sweet, caring, and kind to everyone. I felt it was my duty to put it into the most simplest form to allow them to have the understanding of what was going on at the moment…

This morning Jehovah Witnesses came to our door, and while I have a respect for all religions, don’t tell me how my bible is misinterpreted. Most Jehovah Witnesses will run away after you try and talk to them about John 3:16 because from a Christian view it means we are going to Heaven if we have accepted him as our Lord and Savior. Jehovah witnesses believe that there is no heaven and hell and that only a few select (144,000 to be exact) are going to “Heaven”. I don’t go knocking door to door to preach my religion to you, but please have enough respect to not run off if I’m trying to prove to you that what my bible says is the way, truth, and light. It was a proud moment and I think God was pleased because later on that evening, we got out of a ticket, didn’t have to wait an hour and a half for a table, and got home safely and soundly.

We also went Ice skating which turned out to be a bad idea. The ice was melting with temps in the 80’s, so how could we ice skate, not to mention, the ice was slicker than ever. We ended up leaving.

We had a very late grocery shopping experience with an exhausted mom and two little girls. I shopped as fast as I could, thankfully, no one was in the store, but us. They were troopers, but they were tired.

All in all, mothers have so many duties day in and day out, we just can’t forget the important things and to us it’s what makes our family our home.

Our family, mom, our minivan, and our mess!
Mark 1:17

And Jesus said, “Follow me and I will make you fishers of men”

A great verse for such a reminder to spread the love, joy, and truth of his word.