Chaos & Love

It’s quarter to seven in the morning and I’m halfway falling off the bed from a little boy who needed mama and a baby girl who also needed mama. Regardless of the time, I needed to journal.

Oh, if you’re wondering where my husband and other child are- they are sleeping on the couch. Not because we are fighting or mad at each other, but because he had a really nice sleep and our little girl wanted to sleep next to him. 💜

The chaos can be fun and other times it can be disastrous. We have to choose how to respond to it..

1. Do we want to Love through the Chaos, or

2. Be Bitter through the Chaos

It’s hunting season and while raising three kids is hard all by itself, life goes on and doesn’t stop for anyone.

I find myself getting bitter at the beginning of hunting season because I instantly become a single mom/widow/whatever you want to call it, but, regardless, I’m the one trying to resolve and argue with my kids who will be cleaning up the cow poop they stepped in and brought it into the house.

I find priorities being pushed back further and further.

Somehow, my husband can come home at 7:30-8pm and be exhausted from working all day on the family farm, but I’m still left to keep the house running.

Dishes can be piled up and not get clean and like our dishwasher currently that is not cleaning the dishes and leaving residue-I’m the one who is responsible for getting them done.

I’m not bitter, I just want to be better.

Ok, let’s put all that aside and look at the positives:

  • My husband is not having glamorous love affairs on 9th street
  • My husband isn’t selling or using drugs
  • My husband surely isn’t running a small town sweat shop


He is…

  • Working hard
  • Helping his family
  • Hunting to provide the steady flow of meat our family needs to survive
  • Teaching our children life lessons that will never be taught anywhere else

The Chaos immediately turns into Love when I see my husband setting a good Godly example for our family. The Love he shares through hunting, processing, and other things they do on the farm will be passed on to our children.

The Chaos comes to a halt when he fits in hunting time together for just the two of us🦌

For now, I’m going to continue to pray that God continues to keep us together through all this chaos..I’m going to pray that God continues to show his love through my husband and our children learning life lessons that can only be taught through our Lord.

Do you find yourself and your life being Chaotic?

Share with how you handle it..I’d love to hear from you💜


Cheer Mom Status🎀🐾🏈

Never in a million years would I have ever imagined turning into a Cheet mama! Never would I have imagined putting makeup on my beauties and entering them into beauty pageants and cheerleading. However, I have found that when you’re with the right crowd of similar cheer mama’s and grandma’s it makes your life ten times better!

Another warm exciting cheer year for these fine ladies and myself! We support our kiddos, cheer them on, and encourage our kiddos to  have fun and follow through!

Last night was Rec night and once again, we had a blast with the girls💜 Our girls were able to cheer with the SRHS Varsity Cheerleaders!

Our girls had a blast and the moms had an even greater evening! We don’t push our girls to do something they don’t want to, I truly feel that they are surrounded and encouraged by a loving support system that allow them to let loose and have a blast!

Thank you so much to our SRHS varsity cheerleaders for allowing our #bulldogs to cheer and support our current and future Eagles! 

I never imagined I would turn my girls into a cheerleader, but they love it and have fun and that’s all that matters to me!! 

Cheerleading has taught my girls so much about friendship, caring, teamwork, and being an encouragement to one another!

We also have the best coaches around! We aren’t competitive, we just want our girls to have fun and enjoy the life long experiences they are learning in the process. 

Until next post,
Moms, Minivans, and Messes

On this Day, Courtesy of Facebook.

Two posts in one day?! How does that happen with three kids?!

Right at midnight after welcoming my husband home and getting ready to adjust getting back to sleep, I always look at the “on this day” app. Looking back at the past times always puts a smile on my face. 

These two photos below, Kaylee had just turned a mere 2 and I was pregnant with our second child. It’s hard to think what life would be like with one child, now that we are a family of five. Life was peaceful and quiet. It was mommy and Kaylee all the time…   
Then came Chelsea…It almost felt like our world needed something else to complete our family. Chelsea brought us laughter, with the faces she made, she brought us hearts that we didn’t know could grow any bigger after having our first child. The pictures below remind me of the times where life was simple, only because  there were two kids and two of us…  

Then came our son, Walker..

He gave our hearts the unlimited amount of love we were looking for..He has completed our lives.

The “on this day” app allows me to remind of pictures I forgot I took, memories I forgot I made, Laughter I forgot I laughed, and tears I forgot I cried.

These are all memories that make me who I am. I’m a loving mom, because of my kids. Do you ever just sit back and think…How did I become so lucky to be your parent?! I look into my kiddos eyes daily and think this thought. 

I’m looking forward to more “on this day” moments, because As my kiddos get older, they shy away from the camera already, which saddens me.

Enjoy the time you have one this day with your kiddos, throw away that to do list, and love and live in the moment ON this DAY.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes

Benny’s Pizza: Home of the Virginia Slice

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Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What is the name of your business and who are your potential customers?

Benny Adelina’s: The name of our pizza shop is Benny Adelina’s. We opened in 2014 and are located in the Westlake Shopping Centre. All pizza lovers are our potential customers! We offer a family friendly dinning experience, but also have a relaxed vibe at night making it a perfect date night destination.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Why did you choose (Your above answer) as your customers?

Benny Adelina’s: We believe that our customers choose us!  When we decided to open Benny Adelina’s, we wanted to provide a fun spot, and high quality pizza. Smith Mountain Lake is a very tight knit community with people in every age group as well as a thriving tourist season, so it was important to us to make our business a place for locals to make their own as well as a cool place for out of towners to visit.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Are you a mom? If so, did Benny Adelina’s have anything to do with initiating the business?

Benny Adelina’s: Our owner Kristen Toth, is a very proud new mom!

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What do you expect to be the outcome of Benny Adelina’s?
Benny Adelina’s: The outcome is always great pizza! We want to continue being a great, easy, and quick place to get good, quality food in Smith Mountain Lake. Additionally, we pride ourselves on community support. By helping local organizations host fundraisers through our Dough Raiser program, we hope to remain a staple in the community.
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Where can I find information about Benny Adelina’s?

Benny Adelina’s: You can see our menu, prices, and contact information on We are also on Facebook and Instagram, sharing our Benstagram photos, monthly specials and giveaway contests! You are also welcome to ask any of our staff and they will be happy to answer any questions you may have.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Are there any promotions for Benny Adelina’s through reading this blog?

Benny Adelina’s: YES! Mention this blog on your next order and receive $5 off an entire 28″ pizza.
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Who does Benny Adelina’s represent? (One mom, multiple moms, etc.)
Benny Adelina’s: Benny Adelina’s represents everyone really. You get what you want when you come to Benny’s. We love our customers and when they are here visiting for that moment, it’s their restaurant.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Can you tell me how Benny Adelina’s will keep moms feeling GLAM?
Benny Adelina’s: Our focus is on keeping it easy and quick. We have a purposefully simple menu and every slice is done within five minutes so it’s convenient for moms on the go. Plus with our slices made to order everyone can have what they want without the fuss and fight between kids.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What does the future look like for Benny Adelina’s?

Benny Adelina’s: It’s looking pretty bright! We are partnering with the school systems for some fundraisers or as we like to call them, Doughraisers. We have also joined forces with different businesses in the area as well as our local Chamber of Commerce to give back to our community. We hope we can partner with more organizations in the coming year and host more Doughraisers to not only raise funds but to also help these great organizations get their name out there and meet people in the community they may have not met otherwise.

VA Paint Party: Birthday Party Fun

VA Paint Party

Recently, at the last minute, we had the opportunity to have a paint party birthday party for our oldest daughter, since she enjoys arts and crafts. It was a huge success! We had the opportunity to have our party at our local froyo place, Sweet Frog. I also had the privilege to interview the owner of VA Paint Party, Misty Adams.


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Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What is the name of your business and who are your potential customers? 

VA Paint Party: The name of my business is VA Paint Party, LLC.  My potential customer is…. ANYONE!  Any age – young to senior, male or females!  All ages have a lot of fun.


Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Why did you choose (Your above answer) as your customers? 

VA Paint Party: There are several great competitors out there in the same industry and I knew I had to find a niche in this market.  Offering paint parties to everyone is it! 

You can have your kids sitting right beside you painting along on their own canvas as well as offering a unique birthday party for them. We have had birthday parties for kids starting at age 4 all the way to a young 71st birthday!

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Are you a mom? If so, did this business have anything to do with initiating VA Paint Party?

VA Paint Party: I am a very proud mother of 3.  A stepmom to two and one of my own. Their ages range from 21, 18, and 17.  I wanted our kid to know that dreams come true!  If you work hard and focus – you can be successful in all you do!

Moms, Minivans, & Messes:  What do you expect to be the outcome of “VA Paint Party”?

VA Paint Party: I have very high goals for VA Paint Party.  I started as a one woman show and within less than 4 months, I now have 5 sub-contractors to keep up with demand.  Main goal is to offer exceptional customer service and we fit the needs to every paint party – that will always be the main goal. As far as the future, we are interested in piggybacking with existing business locations to use space when available.  We would love to offer more classes in a stable environment.  Even though we currently go to the customer, some clients also ask if there is a location they can come to.  We are working on finding solutions for their needs.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Where can I find information about “VA Paint Party”?

VA Paint Party: So glad you asked! as well as find us on Facebook – VA Paint Party

Also, Email : or Call/text me!  540-583-0686

Moms, Minivans, & Messes:  Are there any promotions for your products through reading this blog? 

VA Paint Party: Yes!  

Kids Promotion:   My current prices are $20 each at child’s party. For this blog, I am offering $15 a child – minimum of 6 children.

Adult Promotion:  My current prices are $25 a person.  For this blog, I will offer $20 an adult – minimum of 8. 

FUNdraisers – $20 a head – You decide the price to sell tickets for.  Anything over $20 a person is theirs to keep. Normally ranges from $25-$35 a ticket.

We also bring ALL art supplies.  We only ask there are tables, chairs, and access to water. 

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Who is “VA Paint Party”? (One mom, multiple moms, etc.)

VA Paint Party: Great question!

VA Paint Party is an instructional canvas painting party.  We take everyone stroke by stroke on how to paint a picture that was chosen by the host.  We are very hands on and insure a fun time and a great picture!  We do kid’s parties, adult parties, FUNdraisers, church events, team building, WE DO IT ALL!

We also come to you!  That could be your home – church – your favorite restaurant – anywhere! 

Also, out of the 6 that work for VA Paint Party, 5 of us are mom’s.

Mom Instructors:

Misty Adams, Owner, Instructor,  – 2 boys and 1 girl

Jenn, Instructor, 4 teenage girls

Kara, Instructor, 2 boys

Kelli, Instructor – 2 girls

Angie, Instructor – 3 girls

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What sets your Paint business apart from others?

VA Paint Party:  There are several things:

1.  There are no age limits.

2.  We come to you!

3.  You have over 50 pictures to choose from when you are hosting a party.

4. The host works with the owner to plan for the party.  I will make sure everything is setup to plan accordingly.  

5.  We will customize a painting for FREE!

6.  We are a true local business – based in Bedford, VA.  We are not a franchise or a licensee.  True home grown local business.

7.  We give the most back to fundraisers.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes:  What does the future look like for VA Paint Party?

VA Paint Party:  The future is bright!  As a team, we work together to find fun and innovated ideas to bring to our potential and existing customers. For an example, we offer glow in the dark paintings for adults and kids. We are growing fast and we love every second of it!

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: How can your products be beneficial to my readers?

VA Paint Party: Painting is calming, it’s fun, and everyone has a smile on their face.  It can be an escape and a way to tap into or even spark a creative side!

I remember trying to plan parties for my son and it was always the same options, we offer fun and unique ideas for parties throughout the whole year. 

You don’t have to worry if it’s going to rain, if it’s cold, if it’s too hot, — this is a sure fire way to make sure everyone has a great time and is proud of their very own masterpieces. 

The Home Loving Wife

The Home Loving Wife
Photo Credit: Amber Burke with Mamaratzzi Photography
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Describe your family(# of children, how long you have been married, etc.)
The Home Loving Wife: My husband, Andrew, and I have been married nearly 7 years and we have 4 beautiful daughters – Julianna Claire (5), Sophia Nicole (4), Chloe Audrina (2) and Isabel Rosalee (1). We make our home and raise our family on the East Coast, in Charlotte, NC. We are a fun, crazy family that loves princess movies (well, us girls anyway!) trips to the beach, snuggles on the couch and pizza night!
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What do you miss most about life prior to children?
The Home Loving Wife: I miss the free time – those moments where I didn’t have to be anywhere, doing anything and I had complete discretion over how I spent that time without having to consider anyone else’s needs. Also, being able to have a bit more freedom with my husband – to run out for sushi if we didn’t feel like cooking or run to the grocery store for a few things without having to cart our whole entourage along with us haha!!
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What will you do different with your kids than your parents did with you?
The Home Loving Wife: My biggest hope is that my kids grow up with a deeply-rooted sense of gratitude and generosity (something that wasn’t cultivated in my home growing up) as well as an understanding of how to take personal responsibility for their choices and the consequences of those choices. I want my kids to be empowered to make good choices on their own instead of learning to simply follow rules. And I am very intentional about being 100% honest and open with my children (in an age-appropriate manner) when they ask questions – I want them to know the real answers to things and how the world really works so they aren’t surprised by anything later on. And I want them to trust me!
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What was the deciding factor to becoming a permanent Stay at Home Mom?
The Home Loving Wife: My husband and I were both raised in households where our mothers were primarily stay-at-home mamas, so we both grew up envisioning that being the case when we had our own families. This was something we discussed before even getting married – we wanted me to be able to stay home and homeschool our children whenever that time came. When I became pregnant with our first daughter, I stopped working halfway through the pregnancy and haven’t been back to work since – though I have pursued other avenues to earn income from home since then. The biggest thing for me was that I wanted to be as present as possible in all the aspects of my children’s development. I nannied for a few years before having children, and while I think every family’s needs and circumstances are very different, I knew I didn’t want to have someone else primarily caring for or raising my kids. I knew at the end of the day I’d rather them have more of ME in their lives as opposed to us living more comfortably financially.
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: How well do you think you handle being a parent?
The Home Loving Wife: I think that on most days I rock this whole mom thing out. I mean, nobody has died in the last 6 years, so that is a serious win!! But in all seriousness, there are SO many aspects to motherhood that are really intense and I lose it way more often than I’d like to admit to. And what’s interesting, is that in a lot of ways I feel like the longer I’m a parent, the less I have black and white answers figured out. I’ve learned that in order to be able to have patience, be calm and kind and handle the chaos of motherhood with dignity I have to do a good job of taking care of myself. When I don’t, everything gets thrown off and I’m no longer in control of my reactions and behavior.
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What was your first motherhood panic?
The Home Loving Wife: The first time my oldest daughter slept through the night in her own room when she was just 8 weeks old. I remember waking after a long, blissful night of sleep in a panic because I realized I hadn’t woken up with the baby at all and thought I hadn’t turned my monitor on! I rushed to her room thinking I’d find her dead or comatose from crying all night – and instead I found her still soundly asleep in her bed!
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: When do you find time for yourself?
The Home Loving Wife: I’ve learned that it really doesn’t work to wait and hope you “find” time for yourself as a mom – you have to be really intentional about creating time for yourself. What tends to work the best for me is to plan out my week in advance and schedule in blocks of time throughout my day and week where I will accomplish things that fuel my mind, body or soul. And being in open communication with my husband about when I need his help to make sure I have that time is essential. I like to wake up at least an hour before I get my kids up so that I have the opportunity to “fill my own cup” before pouring myself out on my kids behalf all day. Also, I pepper self care things through my day, often including the kids, such as eating good meals/snacks, exercising or taking a 15 minute quiet break to read.
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: How do you picture your kids in ten years time?
The Home Loving Wife: Wow, well….my children will be 15, 14, 12 and 11….which is NUTS to even think about haha!! I picture them all being each other’s best friends. I picture them all thriving in their lives, excelling at what they do and living in their passions. I picture them positively impacting others lives by living lives of love, grace, gratitude and generosity. And I picture having SO much fun with them – traveling, getting our hair and nails done, talking about life and having dance parties in our pajamas in the living room!
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What is the hardest part about being a mom?
The Home Loving Wife: In this season of having several very young children, the biggest challenge is feeling sucked dry mentally, emotionally and physically. I am a BIG introvert, so having people around me, talking to me, touching me and needing me all day, every day is EXHAUSTING. By nature I prefer lots of quiet and solitude – which is the opposite of my life right now haha!! This is why I’ve found it to be SO essential to MAKE as much time as possible throughout my day to intentionally recharge myself.
Moms, Minivans, & Messes: How does your spouse help you around the home?
The Home Loving Wife: My spouse is the most incredible human being in the world. He is an unbelievably helpful, loving, caring and supportive partner. There is virtually NOTHING that he wouldn’t do if I asked him (although I am generally the poopy diaper changer, except in case of emergency or necessity haha!!) He is gone from about 7am-6:30pm during the week, but in the evenings he’s great about taking over for me if I’ve had a long day and need a break, and on the weekends he is all hands on deck to help accomplish whatever I’d like to. He’s great about helping with household chores if I ask, taking charge of the kids so I can have some time to myself and he is the BEST at caring for and loving ME.
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I would like to thank the Van Kirk family for taking time out of their busy schedule for this interview!
Moms, Minivans, & Messes

Toddler Car Gear by Catchie Concepts

As I was driving home this evening I looked in the back of our minivan and was disappointed by the mess that didn’t have to be in the back seats. Hoping that a mom would invent and come up with something that could alleviate huge messes, especially in my minivan, would make my life, and the life of other mother’s, ten times easier.

I stumbled on an Instagram “like” from catchie_concepts on my picture:

mess.jpgPicture Credit: Instagram: MomsMinivansMesses

I researched the California based  company and profile and later thought to myself that had I known about this company sooner, it probably could have alleviated many of these messes in my minivan and saved a lot of trips to the car wash!

Does your vehicle look like this sometimes? Messy with kids, shampooing and vacuuming the heck out of your vehicle constantly because your kids continue to have no respect for the things you’re paying for at times?!

Luckily, I will be ordering my first Catchie as soon as I clean my car and it’s like new again(Which will be sometime this weekend). All readers will be able to have a special discount through this blog post so please share so that you can join in on the savings!! (Thank you, Catchie Concepts!)

Below is the interview of Catchie Concepts:

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What is the name of your business and who are your potential customers?

Catchie Concepts: Catchie Concepts; Customers vary from parents to be, parents of multiples, grandparents and caretakers.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Why did you choose (Your above answer) as your clients?

Catchie Concepts:When the Catchie was first invented we reached out to all types of people to see what their thoughts and input are on our product. It was fun to see how grandparents reacted …they can’t always bend and find the bottle that was dropped. Caretakers (Nannies or relatives watching your kiddo) enjoyed it because they wanted to make sure the kids didn’t destroy their personal car. New parents were aware from others how messy kids can be and parents of multiple kiddos have gone through driving with toddlers before and enjoyed the product greatly.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Are you a mom? If so, did this business have anything to do with initiating Catchie Concepts?

Catchie Concepts: I am a mom of 3 kids aged 13, 9, and 4! The youngest one was the reason the Catchie was invented…I already knew how messy they could get and just had bought a new car and drove a company car at the time. I didn’t feel like having it taken over by the little guy and wanted to make sure that on longer drives we were not all searching for his pacifier, bottle etc.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What do you expect to be the outcome of “Catchie Concepts”?

Catchie Concepts: We are working with a leading company that was started by another mom and was on shark tank! She is great and pretty soon we will be able to let our customers know our newest plans for 2016.

We are now on large online retailers and with local boutiques as well…we look forward to expanding this year and continuing to grow.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Where can I find information about “Catchie Concepts”?

Catchie Concepts: has our most current line of Catchie’ s, it also gives a video, reviews, magazine articles written on us along with where you can purchase one if it’s not available online or if you want to support a local company by you!

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Who is “Catchie Concepts”?

Catchie Concepts: Two sisters own the company 1 a mom and the other an aunt that knows how gross kids can be in the car. Our customer support specialist is a stay at home mom that is amazing to our company!

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: The average mom has a messy car, van, or suburban. Can you tell me how this product will help alleviate the messes that moms don’t want to live up to these days?

Catchie Concepts: The Catchie is a waterproof catch mat that catches anything your toddler might toss or throw from their car seat keeping it off your car floor and within arm’s reach! Provides protection that seat guards, floor mats, and kick mats cannot. It’s like an amazing 3 in 1!

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: What does the future look like for Catchie Concepts?

Catchie Concepts: Growing, we are always thinking of how to make things easier for moms…so keep an eye on us!

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Moms, like myself, struggle with cleanliness and their vehicles. How can your product save me from visiting the car wash every week?

Catchie Concepts: When your toddler is about to eat  a snack, or drop that sippy cup, toy etc. The Catchie is waterproof and will keep all the messes on the net like feature making it easy to just wipe up or sweep into a trash bag  no need to pay money or spend morning cleaning out the back of the car anymore. Everything is kept right where you need it. Not to mention great for car sickness, it’s so easy to use and clean it becomes the new norm. You won’t miss the weekly car wash.

Moms, Minivans, & Messes: Are there any promotions for your products through reading this blog?

Catchie Concepts: Yes, we would love to offer your readers a Special promo for 20% off any Catchie. Simply use MOMCAR  offer ends 5/1/2016 only available on direct website at this time.

A huge Thank you to Catchie Concepts and their crew for allowing us to interview their Mom business! We look forward to seeing you grow!!

If you would like more information, please contact Catchie Concepts via online at: